Debunking Common Myths About Bulimia Recovery (And Why They Can Hold You Back)
Introduction: The Problem with Mainstream Advice on Bulimia Recovery
If you’ve ever Googled “how to recover from bulimia,” chances are you were met with an abundance of feel-good phrases and advice that barely scratch the surface.
Practice intuitive eating. Love yourself more. Just stop bingeing.
Here’s the truth: most of what you’re told doesn’t work on its own when you are just getting started on your recovery journey.
Not because you’re broken, but because the advice doesn’t reach the real, raw parts of your experience. The shame. The hiding. The internal conflict between your head and your heart.
Here’s what’s missing: embodied strategies that meet you where you’re at today—biologically, physiologically, emotionally, and spiritually.
So let’s break down some of the most misleading myths keeping you stuck, and instead, offer grounded, clear steps to help shift your internal state and start building momentum.
Myth #1: “You Just Need More Willpower”
This one’s toxic.
It suggests that if you really wanted recovery, you’d just stop bingeing. You would just stop eating when you are full. You would simply skip that first glass of wine at the end of the day. You would just get better.
But bulimia isn’t just a willpower issue. It’s a nervous system pattern rooted in trauma, emotional dysregulation, neurochemical imbalance, and biological addiction.
And the truth? During my 14-year-long "Era of Addiction" (which you can read all about here), I did want to get better. A part of me was craving peace.
But another part of me — the one who had been betrayed, shamed, judged — called bullshit. That part didn’t want to give up the daily indulgences, obsessions, and compensation habits that took up so much space in my life. Because who would I be without them?
When I tried to force recovery, it didn’t feel real. What felt real was the shame. The hiding. The freedom found in letting go during a binge—and the wave of relief that follows a purge.
✨ First Step to Shift:
Have an out-loud conversation between the two parts of you. Let the voice who wants to heal and the one who doesn’t trust it both speak. Write it down. Don’t judge it. Just name what’s real.
Myth #2: “You Have to Love Your Body to Heal”
This one nearly broke me.
Every time I saw “love your body” online, it felt like a cruel joke. How do you love something you’ve only ever punished? How do you look in the mirror without spiraling into shame?
You don’t have to love your body to start healing. You just have to stop treating it like it’s the enemy.
Start with respect. Start with neutrality. Start with truth.
Self-love takes time and comes with patience and practice. Offer yourself some grace.
✨ First Step to Shift:
Choose one act of body respect today. Skip the gym if you’re tired. Eat something nourishing without distraction. Stop body-checking for one day. Respect is the bridge to love.
Myth #3: “Recovery is Linear (And Once You’re Healed, You’re Done)”
Nope. Recovery is a spiral.
There was a night, months into being “clean,” when I ate half a jar of chocolate almond butter with a spoon out of the container. I panicked inside. I sobbed. But I didn’t purge. I didn’t lie. I didn’t punish myself.
I stayed. I met myself where I was and told myself it was going to be okay. That moment mattered more than a hundred perfect days.
Recovery is about reclaiming choice in the moment, not never slipping up again.
✨ First Step to Shift:
Redefine your success. Ask yourself, “How did I show up differently this time?” Write down 3 ways you’re shifting — even subtly. That’s proof. That’s progress.
Why These Myths Can Hurt More Than They Help
These myths don’t just slow recovery — they keep us trapped in performance and a standard that takes time to ground into and take root. Pretending. Performing. Hiding the truth behind perfection.
Real recovery is messy. Honest. Sometimes ugly.
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being present.
The Real Truth About Healing Bulimia
Healing from bulimia isn’t about “fixing” yourself. It’s about finally listening to yourself.
It’s about becoming the one who can hold all the parts of you — even the messy, shadowy, shame-soaked parts — with enough compassion to stop the internal battle.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is let someone else hold space for you — a mentor who sees the parts you’ve hidden, speaks to the parts of you that still need to heal, and believes in your process 100% (even if you still don't).
You just need the willingness. And one breath where you say, “Okay, I’ll try something different.”
Are You Ready to Try Something Different?
You don’t have to keep doing this alone. The Novara Recovery Process offers a path to lasting peace with food, body, and self.
📖 Download the Free “Binge Free Blueprint” eBook
This 20-page guide lays out the core steps of the Novara method—practical tools, supportive prompts, and a roadmap to help you begin shifting from day one.
If you’re exploring what healing could look like for you, I’d love to meet you exactly where you are—no pressure, just honest support and real conversation.
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Sometimes it turns out that we’re not the best match. If that’s the case, I’ll gladly guide you toward other professionals who may be better suited to support you.
In Service and Gratitude,
Kathryn Ann (aka: Pritam Tara)
